Showing posts with label women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label women. Show all posts

Thursday, September 15, 2011

A Woman's Beauty

Before our office moved from Century City, I went to the Annenberg Space for Photography on my lunch break to see the Beauty Culture exhibit that features photographs of movie stars and models by world famous art and fashion photographers such as Tyen of the House of Dior and Albert Watson whose celebrity portraits have appeared on more than 100 covers of Vogue Magazine.

The purpose of the exhibit, which runs through November and features a must see documentary short, is to show the power of the still image in shaping our cultural ideals of feminine beauty and a woman's sense of self.

Take your friends and family, sons and daughters as the exhibit sparks a lively discussion about our relentless pursuit of beauty and how power co-opts our sense of self for its own end.  You need only take a look at the Wall Street traded multi-billion dollar corporations that surround high fashion photography today to see that they are always trying to expand deeper and deeper into your body and psyche -- and for what purpose?  The answer is simple.   Just ask yourself, "Who profits?"

But you don't have to buy into it. One of the women featured in the exhibit is my personal heroine, Sophia Loren. She's an icon of feminine beauty for sure, but even the exhibitioners don't quite know where to put her. When you go you'll see what I mean. She stands out from the other beauties as having an undefinable, uncategorizable, incongruent "something".

In my own attempt to define what beauty and "the red coat" means to me, I came across her book Women & Beauty.  I never followed Ms. Loren's career but the book made me a huge fan.  In it she gives tips on wardrobe, hair, cosmetics, exercise, dieting and though these are important, she says, the essence of a woman's beauty is something much more.

Looking back on her career as an actress, she tells a story about working with George Cukor. Cukor was considered a “woman’s director” who had an eye for beauty and a special instinct for developing a woman’s potential. To Loren's great surprise, he did not spend time fussing with makeup and costume. One day, in the course of explaining how a character should emphasize her attractiveness, Loren recalls that Cukor said something that she has never forgotten:
"Beauty without self-confidence is less attractive than ugliness with self-confidence.   
If you are confident, you are beautiful.”  
Loren, elaborates.
"If you turn to your friends or even to women who appear in the media, you will see that the beautiful ones, those who catch your eye and make you delight in them and perhaps envy them, are the ones who believe that they are beautiful.  Somehow they have discovered that they are beautiful, and they radiate the pleasure of their discovery, even though their features or their figure or their makeup are not perfect.  You recognize immediately their confidence in their own appearance.  Indeed, I am convinced that nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief that she is so.”
What would happen in the world right now if women everywhere believed that they were beautiful and radiated the pleasure of that discovery?

For my picture, I chose a photograph of me when I didn't know how beautiful I was. Do you have one like that too?









Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Afraid to Start


The topic for the first week’s post was easy. It came to me in a flash. It came before I even started blogging. I named it: AFRAID TO START.

This is how it went in my head:

You need to learn how to blog if you are going to self publish and promote your book. The problem is you don’t have time to blog. You are not ready. You can’t possibly blog about the book before you are finished writing it and blogging about something else will take up too much time and distract you from the book. Okay so forget about writing a blog just take pictures. That’s easy. No, The Sartorialist can do it but you suck. Your camera sucks too and you’re out of control on wordpress. You can’t even figure out how to navigate the dashboard. You could try vimeo except you’re not even sure what that is. Better be careful. Don’t get carried away. Don’t get too complicated. You have no time, remember. You can’t possibly do this.

All this was going through my head, when I remembered Srinivas Rao’s interview of Lisa Hickey (goodmenproject.com) on BlogcastFM. They were talking about getting started on your blog and I think it was Srini said, “You won’t be very good at first – the key is to just do it. “

That’s when I decided I had to do it.

I had to just start.

SO I DID!

And how do you like my picture for AFRAID TO START?

I was on my way to the pool and I thought, I’ll ask the lifeguard to take a snapshot of me diving in off the block. Great image for the point I want to get across, right? Except when I got there I realized that they don’t have blocks at the Culver Y! Plus, by the time I finished my workout, lap swim was over and a gang of kids jumped in with their beach balls and flotation devices! My perfect idea ruined! But I had to get something, some kind of shot. So as I was leaving, I snapped this picture. Kids having fun.

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Bringing it to Light

This month’s assignment for my mastermind group (firstfridaymasterminds.com) is to create a Facebook Page and (for extra credit) to start a blog to promote the service/product I am developing in the group.

My service is to help other women and the product is The Red Coat, an illustrated fairytale for women that I have been working on for 15 years. I know, right? That's a long time! Several months ago we set goals in the group and one of mine was to finish The Red Coat by December 31, 2011. That's this year!

In the past, things always got in the way of me finishing anything - demands of motherhood, tough jobs, difficult bosses, and confusion about the men in my life - but mostly it was me and my lack of faith in myself. But now I feel ready. I feel like I can do it! I learned a lot about myself writing the book and I can't wait to show it to you. But of course, there's always that fear: what if it's no good? What if it's not right? What if it's not exactly...perfect?

I decided a great blog topic for me (one that supports rather than distracts me from my goal) would be to write about the fear and resistance that comes up as I near the completion date.

Here are 5 things I want this blog to do:

  1. Be simple. I want to be understood.
  2. Be easy. I have enough on my hands trying to make my deadline.
  3. Create awareness. I want to identify the fears that holds me back.
  4. Create movement. I will come up with actions to address them.
  5. Be interesting. I'll follow through and write about what happens!
In the coming week, I'll be taking note of moments I start to lose my way, making excuses, falling into confusion, becoming afraid. I'm not sure fear will go away, but bringing it to light, coming up with a plan and taking action will certainly do one thing for me -- I expect I'm going to have an interesting week!

If there is something in the way of your happiness, a dream that you keep putting off, I encourage you to try it this week too!